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From first dates to deep intimacy — questions that reveal character, not just credentials
Get the REAP Integrity App with everything you need for better dating conversations
You're on a date. The conversation is... fine.
But it's not going anywhere.
"What do you do?"
"Where are you from?"
"What do you do for fun?"
Same questions. Same surface answers.
No depth. No connection. No spark.
But boring questions aren't the real issue.
You're bringing baggage from past dates to this new person.
305 hand-crafted questions. 10 categories. 3 difficulty levels. All tagged with REAP Method skills.
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Step 1
Before you can have a great conversation, you need to process what's happening INSIDE you. The 4A Process is a framework that helps you identify and work through your emotions — so you show up fully present instead of distracted, anxious, or guarded.
It takes 5 minutes. You can do it before a date, in the car, or right before you walk in.
AWARE
Name what you're feeling and thinking right now. Get honest about your internal state.
ADDRESS
Identify the root cause beneath the emotion. What's really driving this feeling?
ACCEPT
Accept what is. Make peace with reality and choose how you'll move forward.
ACCELERATE
Take aligned action from a clear mindset. Now you're ready to engage fully.
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Now You're Present
You've cleared your internal noise. You're ready to actually connect.
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Step 2
Now that you're present, it's time to actually connect. The REAP Method is my conversation framework built from 13 years of coaching. It teaches you how to build Rapport, ask Engaging questions, practice Active listening, and give Proper responses.
The Dating Questions App gives you 305 hand-crafted questions tagged with which REAP skills they use.
Not AI-generated. Created by Darius from 13 years of coaching real conversations.
Money • Character • Family • Spirituality • Ambition • Personality • Younger Years • Kids • Relationships/Sex • Favorites
Beginner → Advanced → Expert
Start with surface, go to depth
Each question shows which of the 5 Engaging Question characteristics it uses (from the REAP Method)
PERFECT FOR:
Singles Dating
Couples Going Deeper
Marriage-Minded
Long-Term Love
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Everything you need for better dating conversations lives in ONE app. The 4A Process. The REAP Method training. The Dating Questions. All the tools to help you connect.
The Dating Questions are part of the Engaging Questions pillar of the REAP Method. Each question is tagged to show you which of the 5 Engaging Question characteristics it uses — so you learn the framework while you use it.
4A Process App
Process past relationship baggage
4A Mini App
Quick emotional check-ins before dates
Dating Questions App
305 questions across 10 categories
REAP Method Training
Communication framework & audio lessons
Relationships App
Track connections & conversation notes
Life Assessment App
Measure growth across 6 life areas
7-day free trial • All apps included • Cancel anytime
Before you can have fruitful conversations with others, you need emotional clarity within yourself
Get the REAP Integrity App with the tools to process your internal dialogue
You react instead of respond.
You're defensive, blaming, or shut down.
"They didn't like me"
(defensive)
"They're attacking me"
(reactive)
"They don't understand"
(blaming)
Notice the pattern?
You're trying to communicate externally before processing internally.
Your external conversations fail because your internal dialogue is broken.
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Step 1
You can't improve what you don't measure. The Life Assessment shows you exactly where you are and tracks your progress over time.
First, you need to know WHAT needs to be processed. The Life Assessment reveals the areas where you're struggling — so you know what to focus on.
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Step 2
The 4A Process helps you identify and work through unmet expectations and emotions — so you can respond from clarity instead of reacting from pain.
Unmet expectations are the #1 cause of emotional pain. When you don't process them, they become resentment, anxiety, and broken conversations.
AWARE
Name what you're feeling right now. Get honest about your internal state and what's triggering you.
ADDRESS
Trace it back to the unmet expectation. What did you expect that didn't happen?
ACCEPT
Accept what is. Release what you can't control and choose how you'll move forward.
ACCELERATE
Take aligned action from a clear mindset. Now you can respond instead of react.
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Now You Can Respond, Not React
You've processed your internal dialogue. You're ready for fruitful external conversations.
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Everything you need to master your internal conversation lives in ONE app. The 4A Process. Life Assessment. Journaling. Habits. Goals. All the tools to build emotional clarity.
4A Process App
Process unmet expectations & emotions
4A Mini App
Quick emotional check-ins
Life Assessment App
Measure growth across 6 life areas
Journaling App
Reflect and process your thoughts
Habits App
Build consistency & track progress
Goals App
Set and achieve personal goals
7-day free trial • All apps included • Cancel anytime
Turn forgettable networking into memorable connections that build real business relationships
Get the REAP Integrity App with the tools to master professional conversations
You walk into a networking event, conference, or client meeting.
Your mind goes blank. The anxiety kicks in.
"I can't remember names"
(embarrassing)
"I struggle to talk to strangers"
(awkward)
"Conversations stay surface-level"
(forgettable)
The Result:
You exchange business cards. Maybe connect on LinkedIn.
But nothing memorable happens. No real connection forms.
And when it matters most:
High-stakes pitch. Tough feedback. Tense negotiation.
Stress makes you REACTIVE instead of CLEAR.
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Step 1
Before you walk into that networking event, conference, or client meeting — use the 4A Process to clear unprocessed emotions and stale energy.
Here's the truth: The first conversation someone has with you isn't through your words — it's through the energy your conversation gives them.
If you're carrying unprocessed stress, anxiety, or frustration from earlier in the day, people feel it. They don't know what it is, but they feel the heaviness. The 4A Process clears that energy so you show up present, clear, and magnetic.
AWARE
Name what you're carrying. "I'm anxious about meeting new people." "I'm still frustrated from that earlier meeting." Get honest about your internal state.
ADDRESS
What expectation wasn't met? "I expected that project to go smoothly." "I expected to feel more confident." Trace the feeling to its root.
ACCEPT
Release what you can't control. "I can't change what happened earlier." "I can choose how I show up now." Accept reality and choose your next move.
ACCELERATE
Move forward with clear energy. "I'm walking in present and focused." "I'm ready to connect genuinely." Now you're energetically ready to network.
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Now Your Energy Is Clear
You've processed the stale emotions. You're not carrying yesterday's baggage into today's connections. People will feel the difference.
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Step 2
Most people think good communication is about being a good talker. It's not. It's about being a good connector.
The REAP Method is a framework for building real connections — at networking events, client calls, investor pitches, and team meetings. It turns "What do you do?" into conversations people actually remember.
R - RAPPORT
Prepare the soil of someone's heart
Most people think rapport is about small talk. It's not. Real rapport is moving from the WHAT (their job title) to the WHO (the person behind it). Find commonality. Create safety. Build trust authentically.
"People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care."
E - ENGAGING QUESTIONS
Plant quality seeds
Not just open-ended questions — engaging questions. Questions that paint vivid pictures. Questions that evoke emotions. Questions that reveal character, values, and ambition. This is how you stand out from "What do you do?"
Example: Instead of "What do you do for fun?" try "When you were a kid, what were your favorite things to do that you still love today?"
A - ACTIVE LISTENING
Water the seeds
Most people don't listen. They wait for their turn to talk. Active listening means receiving someone's words, emotions, and heart BEFORE you respond. This is how people feel truly heard.
"If you're not listening to me, you're not respecting me. The first law of love and respect is to listen."
P - PROPER RESPONSES
Harvest the fruit
Your response either validates what someone shared or invalidates it. When someone opens up, they're taking a risk. How you respond determines if they'll risk being vulnerable again. This is where lasting impressions are made.
Validation isn't agreeing — it's letting someone know "your feelings and thoughts matter to me."
"Every conversation either builds connection or creates distance."
The REAP Method ensures you're always moving toward people, not away from them.
The same questions that help you vet a romantic partner help you vet a business partner, client, hire, or investor.
Money Views
"What was the last thing you were very excited to buy because you worked hard to save for it?"
Reveals: Financial discipline, delayed gratification, values
Character
"What were some of the biggest mental roadblocks you had to break through to acquire something you wanted?"
Reveals: Resilience, problem-solving, self-awareness
Ambition
"What financial goal are you currently working towards?"
Reveals: Vision, planning, drive
305 questions across 10 categories
Beginner → Advanced → Expert
"It's definitely helping me not just with dating questions, but also digging deeper with clients 🙌🙌"
— REAP User
Stand out in networking. Build real connections.
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Everything you need for professional communication excellence lives in ONE app. The 4A Process. The REAP Method. The Dating Questions. All designed to help you master business conversations.
The Dating Questions are part of the Engaging Questions pillar of the REAP Method. Each question is tagged to show you which conversation characteristic it uses — so you learn the framework while networking.
4A Process App
Emotional control before high-stakes conversations
4A Mini App
Quick check-ins before meetings
Dating Questions App
305 questions for business vetting
REAP Method Training
Master professional communication
Life Assessment App
Measure growth across 6 life areas
Productivity Apps
Habits, Tasks, Goals, Calendar integration
7-day free trial • All apps included • Cancel anytime